No Judgement But

Two wives that live here have husbands with Alzheimer disease.
Wife number one is one of those people who constantly talk
about themselves. Her own poor health and how her (sweet)
husband is SO difficult getting into things.
Yesterday she told me she got him into a home, then went
on and on about herself. I left her like I usually do when she does
this. Yes it can be viewed as rude, but I just don't feel the
obligation to listen to her. I was also in shock.
She had two aids coming every day and plenty of opportunities
to do her own thing.
I feel badly for her husband.
He was a nice guy, not mean and very charismatic.

Wife number two is my friend.
Her husband went from a sweet man to a violent one.
She was afraid to sleep, was hit, things thrown at her etc.
Medications worked a little while.
They would sit and color with mom and I until....
The last time I saw them was when he tried to jump out of her car.
She called police and ambulance and had him taken to hospital.
They had him in hard restraints...
She stayed with him.
After a couple weeks there, he is now in Hospice.
WHAT???
She is sleeping over there with him.
Apparently he isnt eating and his body is shutting down....
Maybe this is for the best, I mean he isnt going to get better right?

Two very different couples...
one terminal disease.
UPDATE-
after I posted this both of them passed away.