The reason I am taking care of my parents
is because they were Both quite abusive to us all.
My 3 siblings however feel that my being the 'baby'
of the family somehow made me immune to it. What
they never realized is that I got the full extent of it
while they were away at school. They were never left alone
with this mentally ill woman because the three siblings
were always together. They being 9 years older than me
I was left alone with her a lot.
After my father left her in early 80's the burden in my
heart to care for her solidified. They say that people feel
a strange sense of duty towards their abuser-I believe this.
But having both parents be cruel and abusive to me
as a kid,
and now have them both be dependent on me,
just seems too much for my Psyche to handle.
3 comments:
I feel for you. I really do. It's hard enough having to live with how your parents treat you, but to have to shelve it all because they're no longer able to look after themselves...and become their carer...I can see how difficult that must be for you.
It was hard enough with my mum's Alzheimer's when I have a lot of good memories to get me through. Don't know how I'd feel if I hadn't had that.
Peace be with you x
btw...the comment moderation word? 'lowsy' :-)
Hi. I saw you were a new follower to my blog and wanted to return the visit to say thanks. I found both your blogs, but wanted to comment here first. Having had an abusive, alcoholic mother, I know of what you speak. When she became too crippled with alzheimers, there was a riff in the family over her care. I was unable to do it. I admire you for taking this on. I know how difficult this is.
I have cared for my child-mother as long as I can remember and still call her, send gifts, but I am in assisted living myself, 2.500 miles away, and she and I have an agreement fron decades ago: I will raise her no longer when I turn 18. She understood and we both love each other and did the best we could. That was enough for us. To be abused and then have to care for the abuser---I would not do that. God is better than me. He can forgive and love them, I can not.
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