This article is The Best

https://www.answers4families.org/book/export/html/1

Some quotes-

False things people say-

1. "Your family member would never want you to do this for them, they would want you to get on with your life." What does this comment mean to any of us who are caring for a family member? This statement is about justifying what feels like abandonment. It is not about comfort.
2. "Enough about your family member, I want to know how you're doing."

The primary caregiver and the family member become entwined in ways that are often not recognized or valued by outsiders. There is a deep and often very complex bond that forms between the caregiver and the family member. When well-meaning helpers exclude the family member in their attempt to focus on the caregiver's needs, it often serves to isolate the caregiver even more.

"No one should have to sacrifice their lives for another." Caring for another human being is about unconditional love. It is not about being a patsy. Those of us who take on the challenge feel that it isn't a sacrifice in the negative sense of that word. Our care is about commitment and obligation. Whatever our reasons, they are ours, and they are not for anyone else to judge.