Why do parents say they wont be speaking to you again because they wont be around?
My father has been threatening his upcoming death for ten years or more.
In the beginning I used to talk about how he could contact me afterwards, but now I feel like it is like some strange form of guilt trip(?)
What it did in the past was make me extremely sympathetic to his need for company and someone to talk to and visit.
This was when he lived on his own.
He wouldn't let anyone into his apartment except me and that was because I wouldn't accept 'No' for an answer.
Looking back, those visits were nice.
Maybe now it is him trying to work through the idea of it.
Or preparing me for it?
After so many years of hearing him say it it just seems to
be hollow.
I should be more sympathetic...
He says he needs to hear my voice before he goes to bed.
1 comment:
There is a lot of fear in the elderly about when their time is up. They need reassurance just like a young child sometimes. I held my mom's hand and comforted her many times when she was unsure of what would happen. In his mind state he may be aware that he could go and you might not be ready. I think it is wonderful that he needs to hear your voice..cherish the days.
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